Feb 29, 2024Saira Khan

Lessons from My Own Mother and My Journey as a Mum

As Mother's Day approaches, I find myself reflecting on the significance of this special day. It's not just about receiving gifts or cards—it's about honouring the incredible journey of motherhood and the women who inspire us along the way. For me, Mother's Day holds profound meaning, both as a mother myself and as the daughter of an incredible woman who has been my guiding light and role model.

Growing up, I was fortunate to have a mother who embodied strength, resilience, and unwavering love. She taught me the value of compassion, the importance of hard work, and the beauty of embracing life's joys and challenges with grace. My mum's wisdom and guidance have shaped me into the mother I am today, and I am endlessly grateful for her presence in my life.

Becoming a mother myself has been the most transformative experience of my life. It's a journey filled with boundless love, overwhelming joy, and yes, moments of doubt and uncertainty. As I navigate the ups and downs of motherhood, I often find myself drawing on the lessons and values instilled in me by my mother.

One of the most profound lessons I've learned as a mum is the importance of self-compassion. It's easy to fall into the trap of perfectionism, constantly striving to be the "perfect" mum and feeling guilty when we inevitably fall short. But my mum has always reminded me that we're only human—that it's okay to make mistakes, to have bad days, and to ask for help when we need it.

Self-care and self-nurturing have also been essential lessons passed down from my mother. She taught me that taking time for ourselves isn't selfish—it's necessary for our well-being and the well-being of our families. Whether it's carving out a few minutes for meditation, indulging in a bubble bath, or simply enjoying a quiet cup of tea, prioritising self-care isn't just beneficial—it's essential.

I've come to realise that when a mother looks after herself, her family thrives too. By honouring our own needs and nurturing our own souls, we become better equipped to show up for our loved ones with patience, compassion, and presence. It's a powerful reminder that self-love isn't just a gift we give ourselves—it's a gift we give to our families as well.

As Mother's Day approaches, I'm filled with gratitude for the incredible women who have shaped my journey as a mother. From my mum, who continues to inspire me every day, to the fellow mums who walk this path alongside me, I am reminded of the profound impact of motherhood and the importance of celebrating it with love and gratitude.

So, this Mother's Day, let's honour the mothers in our lives—the ones who came before us, the ones who stand beside us, and the ones we are privileged to call our own. And let's remember to be gentle with ourselves, to prioritise self-care, and to embrace the beauty and complexity of motherhood with open hearts and open minds. After all, it's in embracing our own imperfections that we truly find the beauty of motherhood.

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  • As a solo mum working 6 days per week since my husband’s death I am constantly reminded that I do not get to spend enough time making memories with my children.. now 18, 23, 25. My own mother was a single parent and worked really hard too and I don’t think self care was ever prioritised but when I was growing up my mum always spent Sunday evening with her hair in rollers manicuring her nails. She had elegant hands , nails always long, always painted.
    Prioritising time with my girls is my goal for 2024. I don’t want their only memory of me to be that ‘she worked too hard’!

    Davina Rivers

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